The Complexity of our emotions

What's up guys? Today I decided to share a little thought about the general view of emotions.

Let's face it, our emotions are one of the most complex mental states man possesses. They manifest themselves at different points in time; some automatic and some physically invoked. Some of those emotions are anger, sadness , happiness, anxiety (the popular and basic ones). But there are also extensions off those basic ones such as ecstasy, apprehension, serenity, etc.

Now the thing about emotions is that expressing them can be a real burden to a lot of people. Be it children , teenagers , and even adults. For some, it's very hard to unmask how they feel; they tend to show you a facade of what they are actually feeling. And that could be detrimental to one's physical state. When I mean detrimental; I'm talking about unnecessary stress, depression, inability to think and in some extreme cases following from accumulation of the aforementioned, death.

It is always important to share your emotions especially when they are along the negative spectrums. Holding those kinds of emotions in tend to mess up your mental states that keep you functioning. Continuing that only makes you do irrational things  you'd regret later on.

So I implore y'all. Whether  you are happy, sad, angry or fearful. Express your emotions. And when I say express your emotions, I mean letting them out. Either by physically expressing them, or telling someone you confide in.

Never let your emotions dictate your lifestyle.

Ciao...

"Good Friendship Type" Relationship

Nowadays I have come to realize that many people in relationships are just there for relationship sake. There is no friendship baseline established , and that is always detrimental to one's relationship. It is very important to have a "good friendship type" relationship because it makes the relationship all the more enjoyable. It also gives the couple a sense of happiness as their relationship is not just about physical intimacy.

A "good friendship type" relationship, communication trumps all. Having those hour long conversations about general things of life, making it look as if you're talking to your best friend , is one of the things that makes a relationship worthwhile.
It allows you to be free with your partner. Expressing your thoughts and feelings at all times. This creates a different feeling of intimacy that tends to keep a couple for a long time.

Being in a "good friendship type" relationship creates a sense of openness. Meaning no secrets will be kept. This continues to build trust and in turn keeping a relationship alive.

I implore all my viewers to have a "good friendship type" relationship if they are looking for something serious. You'll be amazed at how your relationship will continue to go strong without you even putting much effort.

Long term Relationships

As a continuation from "The True One", I wanted to delve into the area of the long term relationships. As we all get older, we get tired of going in and out of relationships. We tend to look for some more serious that could possibly lead into marriage. But one thing we are always wondering is how we can successfully transition from the "one and off" relationship to the long term relationship.

One thing to consider when looking for a long term relationship is trust. How much do you trust your partner? Can you be away from your partner for a year and still trust them? Can you see them talking to the opposite sex and not worry about anything? Do you trust that whatever they do with their phone is not pertaining to cheating? If your answer to all of these questions is yes, then you are most likely ready to get into a long term relationship. Trust is something that takes a long time to build, but just a few minutes to collapse. That is why you must be sure you can give your partner 100% of your trust and they will give it back to you.

Another thing to consider is the goals you two share. You have to understand that when getting into long term relationships, the couple in question have to lay out their goals. Both long-term and short-term. It could be educational goals (when you hope to graduate), financial goals( how you hope to take care of each other), marriage goals(when you hope to get married), or even travel goals (when to take a vacation with your partner). It is very to lay out all these goals so that the couple can see where their life is going and how to adequately adjust. One reason why long term relationships don't work is because no future goals are laid. Therefore, there's no direction in the relationship.

One more thing to consider is communication. How effectively do you and your partner communicate? Do you communicate like best friends? or like strangers at the dentist? You have to evaluate how best you guys communicate. Sometimes building an effective relationship requires hours and hours of communication. This allows the couple to establish a "good friendship type" relationship (Will discuss this in my next blog).

If all these aspects are good in your relationship, it is highly possible it will last and lead into something really special. If you have doubts in any of these aspects, do not fear. It is possible to iron out all the differences with your partner and still have a lasting relationship.

Ciao y'all

"The True One"

What's up guys? Been a while since I made a post. Sincere Apologies.

Today, I want to make an extension to my previous post about "The one". As some of you may recall, I mentioned that "The One" isn't just one person in the whole word who you are truly meant to be with. There are several if not hundreds of people who are perfectly compatible with you. But before I go into the main topic for today, I wanna make a little tweak to my previous notion on "The One".

Though there are several people who can be compatible with you, I've come to notice that not all those compatible with you will necessarily be the ones truly meant for you.  Many might work out at the beginning, but along the way, things might break down. So I've come to understand that there's that one person who you can truly justify to be what I call "The True one". And now seeing that many people are looking for a serious relationship, so finding "The True one" would be one of the most important things to get done .

So how do you know when someone is "The True One" ? I feel "The True One" someone who you constantly think about (for starters). Someone who your heart beats for, who your heart yearns for. Someone who can put a smile on your face every single time you talk to them. Someone who makes you a better person, building up yourself for long term goals. Someone who understands you at your worse and can appreciate you in your dark moments. Someone who makes you see a brighter picture of the world even when everything around you seems so dark. Someone who you can be thousands of miles away from and still love them as if they are 1 feet away. Someone who you see a bright future with and can forgive their flaws. Someone who you are very comfortable with. Someone who you can express your every feelings to and not be afraid of judgement.

These are just some of the things that make you notice that you have "The True one" . If you se all  that and more in someone, I implore you to never let that person go. Someone who can fill in all those criteria is someone worth spending the rest of your life with.

Ciao.....

The elusive phrase - "The One"

What's up guys ??? It's been a while since I brought out a blog. Frankly I attribute it to laziness and procrastination. However, I'm going to be resuming with a full weekend blog event.

I'm gonna start this event with something that everyone believes in which shouldn't be so. That thing is called "The one" . "The one" is a phrase referred to a belief that there is one person who is truly meant for another person.  For some reason they believe in the over  7 billion people living on earth, there is one person who they are supposed to spend the rest of their life with.

I'm here to say that is false.

There's no such thing as "The one" . It is merely a phrase used to justify a lack of relationship in your life. Many people on the face of the earth would be highly compatible with you. It is up to you to find them. They are scattered all over the world and your quest is to find them .

But how do we find "the one"? Tune in for the next blog soon

ciao.

Mutual Feelings

What's up guys? New week, new blog.


This is one area that gets me everytime I talk about it. It's the fact that many times there's one criteria we make before we date someone. And that is having the same feelings the other person has for you spontaneously.

I'm not going to say that this is wrong. In every relationship it is paramount that the feelings are mutual. But for some people, the feeling must be instant.  It must be present the minute they set their eyes on the person.
That's the wrong way to go about it. My philosophy is that everyone should give everyone "the benefit of a doubt." Make yourself wonder what it would be to actually like this person.

There is a fine line between lust and like. People mostly confuse both the terms and feel that every situation should be " love at first sight." But that should not be the case.

I believe it's only after a month of meeting and conversing with the person that you'll truly know if you like the person or not. Feelings don't just suffice in minutes, it's a gradual process.

Therefore, I leave my readers with one statement. GIVE EVERYONE A CHANCE.

Ciao.

Those friendzone signals

Wassup guys!!! New week, new blog.

For a few weeks, I have been taking about friend zones and how awful they are for many people. We have all hoped that we never enter such a complicated zone but many times we don't even know that the actions we are taking are leading us into that zone.

With this problem , the purpose of today's blog has been materialized.  There are many ways people show friendzone signals, but I will mention the common ones.

Being there as a friend: Some people have the intentions of dating someone but in an attempt of trying too hard, the person does things a friend would do. Things such as following them everywhere, being there 24/7 to answer phone calls, always offering to do stuff for them ,etc.

There is a fine line between being nice and being in a potential friend zone. Being able to know when to set limits gives off the vibe that you wanna be nice but at the same time you intend on dating.

So, the next time you decide to pursue someone, set your limits. Don't be too friendly, but at the same time don't come off being too withdrawing. It might be hard to accomplish that, but with time(rather from my next blog), you will be able to get the hang of things.

Ciao till tomorrow .

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