Long term Relationships

As a continuation from "The True One", I wanted to delve into the area of the long term relationships. As we all get older, we get tired of going in and out of relationships. We tend to look for some more serious that could possibly lead into marriage. But one thing we are always wondering is how we can successfully transition from the "one and off" relationship to the long term relationship.

One thing to consider when looking for a long term relationship is trust. How much do you trust your partner? Can you be away from your partner for a year and still trust them? Can you see them talking to the opposite sex and not worry about anything? Do you trust that whatever they do with their phone is not pertaining to cheating? If your answer to all of these questions is yes, then you are most likely ready to get into a long term relationship. Trust is something that takes a long time to build, but just a few minutes to collapse. That is why you must be sure you can give your partner 100% of your trust and they will give it back to you.

Another thing to consider is the goals you two share. You have to understand that when getting into long term relationships, the couple in question have to lay out their goals. Both long-term and short-term. It could be educational goals (when you hope to graduate), financial goals( how you hope to take care of each other), marriage goals(when you hope to get married), or even travel goals (when to take a vacation with your partner). It is very to lay out all these goals so that the couple can see where their life is going and how to adequately adjust. One reason why long term relationships don't work is because no future goals are laid. Therefore, there's no direction in the relationship.

One more thing to consider is communication. How effectively do you and your partner communicate? Do you communicate like best friends? or like strangers at the dentist? You have to evaluate how best you guys communicate. Sometimes building an effective relationship requires hours and hours of communication. This allows the couple to establish a "good friendship type" relationship (Will discuss this in my next blog).

If all these aspects are good in your relationship, it is highly possible it will last and lead into something really special. If you have doubts in any of these aspects, do not fear. It is possible to iron out all the differences with your partner and still have a lasting relationship.

Ciao y'all