Mutual Feelings

What's up guys? New week, new blog.


This is one area that gets me everytime I talk about it. It's the fact that many times there's one criteria we make before we date someone. And that is having the same feelings the other person has for you spontaneously.

I'm not going to say that this is wrong. In every relationship it is paramount that the feelings are mutual. But for some people, the feeling must be instant.  It must be present the minute they set their eyes on the person.
That's the wrong way to go about it. My philosophy is that everyone should give everyone "the benefit of a doubt." Make yourself wonder what it would be to actually like this person.

There is a fine line between lust and like. People mostly confuse both the terms and feel that every situation should be " love at first sight." But that should not be the case.

I believe it's only after a month of meeting and conversing with the person that you'll truly know if you like the person or not. Feelings don't just suffice in minutes, it's a gradual process.

Therefore, I leave my readers with one statement. GIVE EVERYONE A CHANCE.

Ciao.

Those friendzone signals

Wassup guys!!! New week, new blog.

For a few weeks, I have been taking about friend zones and how awful they are for many people. We have all hoped that we never enter such a complicated zone but many times we don't even know that the actions we are taking are leading us into that zone.

With this problem , the purpose of today's blog has been materialized.  There are many ways people show friendzone signals, but I will mention the common ones.

Being there as a friend: Some people have the intentions of dating someone but in an attempt of trying too hard, the person does things a friend would do. Things such as following them everywhere, being there 24/7 to answer phone calls, always offering to do stuff for them ,etc.

There is a fine line between being nice and being in a potential friend zone. Being able to know when to set limits gives off the vibe that you wanna be nice but at the same time you intend on dating.

So, the next time you decide to pursue someone, set your limits. Don't be too friendly, but at the same time don't come off being too withdrawing. It might be hard to accomplish that, but with time(rather from my next blog), you will be able to get the hang of things.

Ciao till tomorrow .

Now.....

The silent rule

Recently, there has been a rule that apparently girls have when it comes to relationships; two girls that are friends cannot date their ex boyfriends. I first thought it was a joke until I confirmed it from a lot of my female viewers.

However, because I like to be neutral, I have two opinions on this rule.

1st opinion: I see a bit of truth in this. It creates tension between the friends.

2nd opinion: I think this rule is a bunch of BS. Everyone is entitled to date whosoever he/she pleases. It's all about the connection (i.e the love) , such a law should not prohibit a relationship.

Now, I know a lot of people would side with either of my opinions. But to each a compromise, I would say everything depends on the situation. If you are in a position where being in that relationship would create tension then the best option would definitely be not to go into it. But I know that there are friends out there who wouldn't care about this and thus, the obvious option would be to go ahead with the relationship


In a nutshell, it's all about the situation. Evaluate it and know the best option to go with.

I don't believe that a silent rule should reign supreme .

Ciao.

An Indepth take on long distance

Alright guys, I hope my viewers in Nigeria had a fun day since it was a public holiday. To my viewers anywhere else,  how was school? LOL.

After that brief blog on Nigeria, I  decided to go in depth into the issue of long distance relationships. It may seem I made long distance relationships look  easy to maintain, but in reality it is the hardest type.
We automatically feel that long distance relationships will be the most faithful, trustworthy and abiding(probably the couple made that vow). But this is a common misconception that has been painted in our minds for many years. There will definitely be trials and tribulations along the way, it happens in every relationship. But the difference between it happening in a long distance or close distance relationship is very distinct.

A couple who has successfully gone through a period of long distance would be able to show two main traits;

1. Ability to forgive irregardless of the offence
2. Ability to appreciate times together and times apart

 
  These aforementioned points are definitely traits needed to maintain  a serious relationship that could eventually end up in marriage.


I know marriage is not what you guys would be thinking of at the moment, but I know apart from the obvious Casanovas, everyone always longs for that serious relationship. Not just some fling.

However, love is the prevailing factor in all relationships, regardless of it being long distance or close distance. Love is the bond that keeps two people together. If you are 3000 miles or 2 miles apart, that bond should still be present.

So I implore my viewers, when ever you are faced with an option of long distance, don't just disregard it. Evaluate it, see if the love connection is strong. This could be a way to determine if you guys are truly right for each other.

PS: Next blog, I will be bringing up another issue that is plaguing teen life. It's called "How do you know you are giving out friend-zone signals?"

Be sure to log in for that soon. CIAO